Note to Readers: Kids, towels, activities, marathon sleepovers….Ask a few moms a few weeks into the summer if they are relaxed or stressed out and you might be surprised to find out how quickly carefree days of summer turn into…..well you know! Ann knows too and I love here practical look at helping moms deal with summertime stress.
by Dr. Ann Gatty
It’s Summer! The kids are home, family parties are planned and the warm weather is forcing you to show more bare skin than you like. Your stress level rises to an all-time high. What you really need are some great ways to deal with stress and time management tips to help you cope with the seasonal activities. Often, summer stress is an unwanted consequence for many of your plans. From graduation parties, to family reunions, to entertaining kids all day to donning a bathing suit–summer can bring with it an unexpected level of stress. Since summer stress is extremely common, let’s identify some stress reducers and some time management tips that can help you deal with your days ahead. Lets find some strategies for you to be able to take a much needed break from time to time and maybe even enjoy a nap in a hammock!!
Stress Reducers and Time Management Tips for Dealing with Summer Stress
1. The Kids are Ever-Present.
Summer provides parents and their kids with a break from the school routine of homework, class projects, fund raisers and school lunches. But with kids have 3 months off from school, parents often find themselves combating kid-boredom that sets in all too quickly. Sibling spats can lead to tension and bickering. Houses often seem as though a tornado has hit and the door seems to constantly be swinging open and shut as kids run in and out grabbing another cookie, juice box or visiting the potty once again. A mother may feel she can’t keep up and can’t stay ahead of the laundry, food supply or house cleaning. Here are some stress reducers for mom:
- Write a set of daily chores that the kids contract to complete in order to have other privileges. Maybe they must tidy their rooms, make their beds, help with the laundry or put away dishes before they can be free to play with their friends.
- Keep the kids occupied. If the kids are not enrolled in summer camp or other kids programs, develop projects that they can work on during their hours of the day. When I visited my grandmother during the summer months, I would work on such projects as creating a book of pressed flowers found in the area, collecting flowers each day and pressing them, and then putting them on scrap book pages. I also had hand sewing projects one year, and another year I created an interior design scrapbook of a house I designed using photos clipped from magazines. Projects can keep kids occupied, give them a sense of accomplishment and be a stress reducing benefit for moms.
Here is a time management tip for Mom! Summer can be a time to teach kids new responsibilities and free up Mom’s time. Maybe the kids have matured enough to take responsibility for caring for the family pet, including feeding, grooming and exercising. Or maybe the kids can help with outdoor chores such as lawn mowing and weeding. As kids learn to contribute to the household, they also learn more about being responsible. This practice of being responsible will be helpful as your kids mature and assume even greater types of responsibility. Having kids share chores is a great stress reducer for moms.
You may find that using a bright new organizing journal will help you tame all of those summer activities, events and social gatherings that keep tumbling into your lap. Visit our article on Time Management Strategies to find other useful tips on staying organized in this busy season.
2. Family Outings are Scheduled.
Summer is a time when social events such as family reunions and graduation parties are planned. People have more freedom to travel with work vacation allotments and kids off from school. One time management tips is to not over-commit what you will be responsible for completing by yourself. Solicit the help of others and delegate, delegate, delegate. One stress reducer for you when planning is to not cram as as many activities as possible into the event which leaves you exhausted and feeling stressed.
3. Build Your Own Vacation at Home.
Sometimes dealing with summer stress can be reduced by building a mini vacation that takes place at home. The family break is less expensive, without the financial burden of traveling and staying in hotels. Just build in some relaxing activities and enjoyable meals and leave work at the office. Maybe your family enjoys camping and pitching a tent in the back yard can be a source of entertainment. Or maybe you have invested in a pool. The important goal is to stop the hectic daily routine and enjoy your own home.
Bio: Dr. Ann Gatty shares her strategies to help women balance their work and personal lives as they navigate through life transitions. Her website stress-management-4-women.com offers relevant information and on-line coaching opportunities to address the unique aspects of women’s lives. Ann can also be found on Twitter.
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Lori, just dropping in here to say “thank you” for making your blog such a warm and welcoming place to visit. Just visited another blog and wanted to comment but the blogger did not allow for comments.
My idea of a blog is that it’s a place for building conversations and communities. Happy to find yours today!
Thank you for your blog compliment! Yes, I want this blog to be a place where we can support each other. There is nothing like another mom’s experience…
Yes, the blessing and the curse of togetherness! My kids always have a checklist to get through before free play. For us it includes dressing, making their own breakfast, cleaning up the kitchen, and then asking everyone else if they need anything. Then they are on their own! I’ve designed the marble jar app to help keep track of this, they drop a marble into the jar on the iPad after each step (with a satisfying clink and choice of color) then at the end they have unlocked free play.
I too usually have a request of contributing to the family or household before my kids can take off in pursuit of play. I think builds character and dedication to family. Love your marble jar concept. Thanks for sharing.
Anna: I grew up with the same kind of checklist from my mom! It really does help keep a perspective about giving before taking. I love your marble jar concept and think that is a great idea for other moms to try. Thanks for stopping by and reading the article.
Thank you for the article! I’ve always felt the need to take The Kids out to do something. This summer we are doing activities around the house and it has been quite a challenge. I really like the ideal about projects.
You should add in what if you have two working parents and it’s summer, that stress is seriously compounded.
Thanks for the suggestion Beth. We have a couple more articles coming out and will try to address this. Appreciate the thoughts.